by Melanie Gallo, PhD
In the Merriam - Webster dictionary the definition of the noun “introvert” is the following: a typically reserved or quiet person who tends to be introspective and enjoys spending time alone.
While this is a spot-on depiction of the word, many people are skeptical towards the whole introvert and extrovert scenario.
Focusing on this I would like to view some of the reasons why this phenomenon is at large in our modern society.
Introversion is a basic personality style that is usually associated with people who prefer to spend their time by themselves or with fewer people. This does not mean that they are lonely, plagued by society, nor sick.
Social gatherings aren‘t the best place for such people, but that doesn’t mean they don’t like personal interactions. It just means that they gain power by being a bit more self-dependent.
In comparison with extroverts, introverts enjoy solo experiences as a gesture of self-care.
Now without further ado, let’s have a look at some of the most common traits of introverts!
They Think Differently
Carl Jung, the creator of the phrase “introversion”, claims that the way of thinking between introverts and extroverts can differ.
A study shows that in larger groups, the brain of introverts produces less dopamine.
That leads to a state of wanting to alienate yourself and recharge your batteries in a quiet and calm place.
It is also known that introverted people react to different incentives than extroverts. For example, a stimulating brain jog would be things like remembering the past and planning ahead.
Not shy, Nor lazy
In our modern society, personality styles are met with differing opinions. Extroverts are, more or less, considered more normal, because of their outgoing nature and social leadership.
Introverts, on the other hand, are presented as shy, freakish, and lazy people.
None of these things are even slightly accurate. The people in this personality style are great leaders and can communicate freely and easily with people. They just don’t want to.
The idea that all people have to be socially active for them to be perceived as healthy members of society is fine If you live in fifteenth century France.
In a modern community like ours, this kind of thinking just sends us back decades.
There Are Always Exceptions
Leading away from popular beliefs, there are always those few that would use being an introvert as an excuse to procrastinate on purpose.
The fact is that one in five people could be doing this to get out of an assignment or chores. The best way to prevent that is to be aware of the actual signs for an introverted person.
Why Can’t We Be Friends?
You know how they say opposites attract one another, well this isn’t the case.
A survey shows that introverts and extroverts would not be the perfect couples or duo. Often there would be misunderstandings in the communication.
Imagine you’re at a party and the loud and open guy, or girl, goes up to you and starts a conversation. There is a huge chance that he would mistake your quietness and non-verbal approach as a sign to not stop talking.
I’m not saying don’t talk to each other. What I’m saying is to always try to understand your crowd, don’t judge or jump to any rash conclusions.
It’s very important for both parties to make sure that It is a safe space for interactions.
An unpopular opinion is that having an extrovert next to you may be comforting.
He would take the pressure away from you having to talk to people and you can easily get involved in your active listening.
Melanie Gallo, Ph.D. is a WorkLife Psychology coach and writer specializing in personality and thinking habits. Dr. Melanie helps today’s leaders and their team members define their WorkLifeJoy. Get in touch directly or download her free Coach2GO app today.
