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How to Combat Loneliness When You're Not a Fan of Being Around People

Being alone does not necessarily mean you are lonely. This can be especially hard for more extroverted, socially energized people to understand. But just because you don't enjoy being around alot of people, or around people often, does not mean that you don't like people at all. So it is still possible to feel lonely sometimes.

Loneliness is a universal experience that affects people of all ages and backgrounds. It's a feeling that can be overwhelming and isolating, especially when you're not comfortable or just not interested in being around others.

Many people who struggle with social anxiety or introversion find it difficult to connect with others, which can lead to feelings of loneliness. In this post, I'll share several strategies for combating loneliness even if you're not a fan of being around people.

Embrace Solo Activities

Just because you enjoy your alone time, doesn't mean you want to be, or have to be alone all the time. There are plenty of solo activities that can help you feel less lonely and more connected to the world around you.

Consider taking up a hobby that you can do on your own, such as painting, writing, crafting, or gardening. These activities can give you a sense of purpose and accomplishment, which can boost your self-esteem and help you feel more connected to yourself and also those around you. And if you are someone who enjoys time with others but you feel drained after social interactions, these types of activities are also great to do with a group because once the activity is done, you can go back to your separate space and decompress if needed.

Connect Virtually

In today's digital age, it's easier than ever to connect with others without leaving your comfort zone. Social media platforms, online forums, and chat rooms can all be great places to connect with like-minded individuals who share your interests and values.

You can start by joining groups or communities online that center around your favorite hobbies, or even participate in online events like webinars or virtual book clubs. 💡And in some situations, some of these groups even attend events and conferences where you can meet in person.

Interact as little or as much as you like and even though you are virtual, you can still develop some fun and enriching connections.

Stay Active

Physical activity is another great way to combat loneliness. Exercise releases endorphins, which can boost your mood and help you feel more positive. Consider taking up a sport or exercise routine that you enjoy, such as yoga, running, or swimming. Fitness and dance classes are also a great way to connect in a time controlled environment. (I get sometimes want to hang out, but not for too long, and not where you have to talk too much.) Not only will you feel better physically, but you may also meet others who share your interests.


Volunteering is wonderful because it allows you to connect with others while also giving back to your community. Look for volunteer opportunities in your area that align with your interests and values. You can volunteer at a local animal shelter, food bank, or community garden.

Not only will you be helping others, but you may also make new friends in the process. 💡If you tend to go regularly and find that you connect with certain people, maybe a quick cup of coffee or bite to eat after volunteering would be a chance to occasionally extend the interaction a few more minutes.

Practice Self-Care

It's important to take care of yourself, especially when you're feeling lonely. Make sure you're getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and taking time for yourself each day. This could mean practicing meditation, taking a relaxing bath, or reading a book. By prioritizing your own well-being, you'll be better equipped to handle feelings of loneliness when they arise.

Seek Professional Help

If you're struggling with loneliness and it's impacting your mental health, it's important to seek professional help. A clinical profesesional like a licesenced therapist or counselor, or a non-clinical certified mental health coach can help you work through your feelings of loneliness and develop coping strategies that work for you.

Particularly with coaching, we develop a plan of action and then check in weekly to help you stay on track and make adjustments where needed. The clinical professionals can diagnose the deeper underlying issues that may be contributing to your loneliness, such as social anxiety, depression or past traumas.

💡Think of coaching like snorkeling and the clinical therapy, counseling and psyciatry services as scuba diving. Certified mental health coaches are trained to see what is going on down below but we don't go down there. And you can do both clinical services and coaching, but as a coach my focus is on staying with you in the current to keep moving forward.

What's Next...

Remember that it's okay to feel lonely sometimes, and that it's a normal part of the human experience. However, it's important to take steps to combat loneliness before it becomes overwhelming. By embracing solo activities, connecting virtually, seeking professional help, staying active, volunteering, and practicing self-care, you can combat loneliness and find a sense of connection and purpose in your life.

If you would like more personalized support navigating feelings of loneliness or other challenges in your life, please don’t hesitate to reach out or sign up for one of my WorkLifeJoy 1-on-1 coaching programs today!


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